MUST READ: What to Do When Something Doesn’t Feel Right in Your Relationship
No matter how long you have been with your partner, something doesn’t feel right in your relationship. Does this mean something?
If something doesn’t feel right in your relationship, you may be at the point where you’re realizing that this person isn’t for you. Well, it’s about time. So, here are the signs you need to look for that show you’re in the wrong relationship.
The dating world can be exhausting, but it’s a crucial part of life. Basically, when dating, you’re just trying to find the best partner for you. One that makes you feel loved and protected but also someone you can call your best friend. And sometimes, it takes a couple of failed relationships in order to find the right person.
Is it a wrong relationship if something doesn’t feel right in your relationship?
Trust me, I know. I’ve been on so many dates and people thought I was picky but that wasn’t it. What really happened was that something didn’t feel right when I was around that person. There was something missing and I just couldn’t put my finger on it. What that really showed me was that this person was not the right one for me.
Though, to be honest, sometimes it took me longer to realize this. Sometimes I would be dating a guy for a couple of months until it finally hit me that this guy wasn’t the one I should be with. Of course, sometimes we ignore the signs because they’re attractive or they make you laugh. At the end of the day, there’s something missing. Believe me, you should listen to your gut.
#1 You don’t feel fully comfortable around them. Naturally, it takes some time to become comfortable around someone you’re getting to know. Of course, we’re usually anxious at the beginning of a relationship. But eventually, you start to develop a level of comfort with the person which lays the foundation of your relationship.
If you’re not feeling comfortable around them after a couple of months, the odds are you’ll never feel comfortable around them.
#2 You lack mutual interests. They say opposites attract but even opposites have things in common with each other. If you’re lacking things in common, like you don’t even enjoy the same genre of movies, then you’re going to have a problem.
At the very least, they understand the way you think, joke, and your values. If they can’t understand you, you’re in the wrong relationship.
#3 You’re responsible for their happiness. Of course, you want to make your partner happy. This is what we all want to achieve. However, this isn’t something you have to take on as a responsibility. If they believe it’s your job to make them happy, you’re going to be spending the rest of your life miserable.
#4 You make plans without them. Maybe you save them a place in your plans if they decide to join you, but for the most part, your plans are made without you even thinking about them.
When you’re with someone you care about, you focus on planning things together whether it’s a vacation or trip to the mall. If your future plans are without them in mind, it sounds like something isn’t right in your relationship.
#5 Spending time together is an issue. Normally, couples come to a subconscious agreement with how much time they spend together. Some couples understand that they need some alone time while others enjoy spending every day together. It’s simply personal preference.
If you cannot come to an agreement, and you don’t want to see your partner more, that’s something to question. Not having time is one thing. If you simply don’t want to see them, that’s a problem.
#6 You don’t have a high opinion of them. Uh, hello! If you don’t have a high opinion of your partner, well, this definitely isn’t an equal relationship. In your eyes, you don’t think your partner is as smart or attractive as you. Basically, they’re lucky to have you.
#7 You miss being single. When our partners piss us off, we naturally think how it would be great to be single. But those thoughts fade quickly. If you spend most of your time thinking about your single life and genuinely missing it, then it’s a clear sign something is missing in your relationship. Maybe you’re forcing something to happen at the wrong time.
#8 You’re not happy. When you’re around your partner, you should be happy to spend time with them. Okay, we can get on each other’s nerves but that doesn’t mean you’re unhappy with them. If having your partner in your life doesn’t make you happier, then are you even with the right person?
#9 You don’t feel the love. When in a long-term relationship, it’s normal to feel distant from your partner from time to time. Usually, these are small phases which pass. However, if you can’t seem to move past those phases, maybe you’re emotionally distancing yourself already. This isn’t a bad thing. It’s a wake-up call showing you the relationship is coming to an end.
#10 You feel it in your gut. You know how important it is to listen to your gut, usually it’s never wrong. And when it comes to love, your gut is right. If you feel it in your gut and in the back of your mind you know this isn’t the right person for you, you’re right. You can try to prove yourself wrong again and again, but at the end of the day, you get to the same point.
#11 You fight over basic moral disagreements. When you’re in a relationship, you’re going to fight with your partner, this is just inevitable. But eventually, you resolve your issues and change your behavior.
However, are most of your fights are based on basic moral disagreements? This is when there’s a problem. If your morals don’t align, then how can you push the relationship forward?
#12 You’re with them because you don’t think you can get better. Listen, I’ve been there. I’ve dated shitty guys and even the “nice guy” because I didn’t think I could get better. Not only does this show you that you’re with the wrong person, but it also shows you have self-esteem issues you need to work on before you can find an equal and healthy relationship.